The Lipstick(Cosmetic comedies)...

 Everything started as a small thought. And it's funny. I noticed my brown-coloured face turning to black after a few days of early morning walks. If I walk like this for 10 years, then I cannot recognise myself.

I started to search for sunscreen lotions. Some sunscreen lotions give a white coating to the face. If you have watched 1980s ghost movies, they have painted the ghost's face with a white coating. A similar type of coating it gives. And finding the right type of sunscreen that suits is a task. Then I thought since I can not use sunscreen lotion on my lips, I have to find a lipstick. A mild color which won't be attractive. And I started my lipstick hunt. I ordered a mild colour for Valentine's Day, and I received a blood red colour as if I am going to attend a vampire party. Refer the image below.

Facing all these challenges, I managed to walk with sunscreen and lipstick to protect my face from Sun. As per Newton's law, every action has a reaction. The housewives in my place got inspired by my makeup! 

One day I was thinking while walking that I should buy fluorescent coloured clothes so that I can be seen from anywhere. The next minute, I saw one of the ladies who watches my morning walk wearing a bright red and green colour dress. She was holding a tote and footwear similar to mine with red color lipstick. lol. The thought that came to my mind was, seeing her sudden transformation, her husband is going to doubt her as if she is having a new affair.(My brain has the power to think worst-case scenarios). 

The narcissist in my family was worried. They can't digest my sunscreen and lipstick look. And I saw the impact yesterday. The family narcissist was asking me, Will I get your money and properties when you die. And I said, I am trying for a job abroad. I will buy a fortress there. I won't die here to give my money to you(I tried my best to give an answer that doesn't have any logic in it). That narcissist is the pig and the family in this cosmetic comedy movie. Pig always thinks he is the smart one. 

They all are thinking that I am still that super empath who will sacrifice my life for them. They don't know I have become a narcissist slayer.

Leading lady - A love story...

 I am getting better at titles... lol

This is part 2 of Stranger 

I went to the bank today, and before going there, said the collective consciousness, I don't want a stranger's story today.  I was waiting in the bank, and nothing was happening. It was boring. And I thought, a stranger's story is better than boring. I looked around. I found one interesting thing. Most of the bank's female employees were wearing lipstick. Finding the right shades was a challenge for me. I started to observe the shades. One of the female staff was looking beautiful. A calm, peaceful face. It is very rare, and looking at her face itself gave a calm feeling. And I like her lipstick. I was thinking whether to approach her and ask about the lipstick details.

At that time, the planets and stars aligned. A young, good-looking guy entered the bank. He went to that female staff and asked a dumb doubt and she replied with seriousness.

When my brain has less energy, I get dumb questions. So I thought that guy's brain battery is low. lol...

Then, after a few minutes, he again went to her and asked another dumb doubt. I watched them for few minutes and understood. That young man likes that female staff and he don't know what to do and asking dumb doubts.

My mind voice said, "stupid guy, its better to say it directly. You never know how many opportunities you will get". The young man left.

I started to scold that young man in my mind. And my critic inner voice told me, "after all you don't have the courage to ask the lipstick details, but you are criticizing another person"

I did not hesitate, I went to her, asked her permission to ask a personal question and asked the lipstick details. She took her mobile, find that details, showed her mobile and showed the price and other details. lol... its so simple.

Now I can scold that young man. Stupid guy, instead of trying to think about dumb doubts, it is easy to tell it directly. Or it may become too late. 

This incident has a lesson, and I have to submit a thesis to the collective consciousness about it. lol

Looks like visiting the bank often can give more useful lessons. Very lucky place to give different interesting lessons.

And the lipstick's name is leading lady... I have justified the title.. lol

Every opportunity has risk. Unless you try, you never know whether it is good or bad. Opportunities need lot of hard work to make it work.

Cindrella Princess...

 Cindrella Princess is about how a female's life can be upgraded in one decision.

Few get that kind of opportunity, and very few among them make use of it.

I usually buy groceries in a particular shop. I have known the family for many years. I started to talk with them like relatives from 2025. We can create a bond or friendship when there is mutual benefit. I get quality groceries at a reasonable price, and they get a regular customer.

Sometimes I get information from the collective consciousness. One day, a few months back, when I saw their daughter, I got the intuition that she was going to be rich. 

One day, they said they had finalised their daughter's marriage. The groom is from Sherlock Holmes' city. The way they said the news was bad. As if it were bad news, near tears. I understood they are not ready, they did not expect and did not like the alliance. 

At that time, I realised why I got the intuition. I asked them few questions. How many alliances you get so far? Did your daughter say okay? Can you give your daughter a luxurious life?  She can get a job there and earn. It is a good opportunity, do it with a full heart. 

Few visits to the shop and I said about good things marriage can bring to their family. 

I went to the reception. And I got a warm welcome from them. I was happy.

Now we are going to the psychological things behind it.

Parents when they are crossing their mid age, sometimes use their children for codependency. On narcissist level it can be they won't allow their children to get married and if they got married, they do all the hard word to break the marriage.

I know the dark side of a parent and I know how to bring the light side. And I amplified the light side of the couple. 

The marriage was praised by most people in my place. Everything was well planned and good.

I felt a little bit ashamed to see the darkness when I encouraged the decision. I felt ashamed as they could see my parents' darkness too.

Advantage Narccisist slayer - neighbour darling, now I know your biggest wound. I know how to attack you next. Don't dare to come near me with a white flag. I don't accept white flags from a narcissist. lol.

Cinema, the drama - Part 2

 Here is the Part 1

The actor I have mentioned in Part 1 created a history in politics. The people who joined in the victory were his parents, not his wife or children. And also the actress. My observations was the actor is an introvert, very ambitious and growing as per his midlife. He and his family grew apart. Though others are saying the actor and his wife will live together and won't get divorced, I think it doesn't have logic in it. If a big, happy moment is not shared, then it means that the relationship won't have a main role. 

Actress has more chances to marry the actor as both are ambitious and since they worked together, they should have developed respect towards each other for overcoming the challenges in their field. Any how, I am writing this here to check in the future whether my observations are right.

The rise of the narcissist slayer(Part 2)...

 Changing from a people pleaser to a narcissist slayer is a process and the collective consciousness will test the progress. I learnt one thing, if I am not progressing, I have to learn the lesson once again. There is no escape from it. So I started to learn with a full heart. 

I told my neighbour I can not help her. And I told her the fact, but I made sure that it should be complete opposite of the rumor she spread about me. People gossip to pass the time, and they have their own work. Gossip is not a primary thing. But inside the narcissist's mind, gossip and rumor is the main world.

I know she will think, I will help, though I said I won't. The day she realised I did not help, she panicked. And I was observing. In movies I have seen the bad people, thieves follow a strict code. They won't back stab their team. So I thought the people who gossip with my neighbour will help her. No, they did not. And I realised there is no bond between them. lol. 

I did not expect her to visit me. But she came. She praised the dress I was wearing. And for the first time I saw the respect in her eyes and truth in her voice. Everybody thinks introvert won't say the reason when they cut off people. I always tell politely. 

When she asked me whether I will continue the course in Peacock University, I replied, "the professors are bad. I had very good professors in my college days. Why would I create bad memories about professors? Why would I create new memories that are bad? Why would I replace good old memories with bad memories?"  She thanked me. And I know she understood the answer was meant for her.

I have not seen a narcissist turn into a good person in my life. But a narcissist slayer can control/contain the damage they create. After all collective consciousness also teaches them to evolve.

I saw the whole life choices my neighbour made as a narcissist. I understood her life better than her and understood how many times the collective consciousness has tried to learn the lessons. But it is tough when the mother is a narcissist.

It does not mean I learned my lessons fast. I am a slow learner. I am still sitting in the same classroom learning to slay the narcissist for many years. When I complete it, life will present me with different life choices where I can learn to evolve further.

Part 1 narcissist-slayer

From rags to riches...

 This story is simple. All you need is rumors.  😊

I always wonder why people spread rumours? What will they get from it? And I found the answer recently. In Maths, using a Venn diagram, we solve problems. I used it to find the answer.

Intersection and difference in Venn diagram concepts helped in finding the solution.

Mainly, I used the process of elimination(difference). I observed the specimen for 1.6 years. lol(I refer narcissist like that).

It started casually. One of my neighbours asked for my help, and I helped. Then it started. The rumours about my career. I was confused. I did not understand. Why? After all, I helped. It is not wrong. I tried to fit in. I tried to please as a people pleaser. It did not work.

Then I started to observe my specimen. I did not talk much; I simply observed. And the neighbour asked for my help regularly. I did it. I love bombed and made my neighbour understand that I know what work she is doing. This process needed a lot of patience and waiting time.

Around this time, another rumour spread that I am wealthy. I was still confused.

I stopped all communication, and the process of elimination gave the result. Voila - found the answer. The only communication between the neighbour and me was her asking for my help regularly.

We are nearing the conclusion. lol. It is simple. 

When a narcissist needs something from a person, they create an illusion that the other person is weak and that they are the one who needs the narcissist. Narcissists try to tame the other person so that they can control them by spreading rumour, manipulations, guilt-tripping, gaslighting, etc.

Now I said I can not help further. This time, the reaction will be different. I have already made the narcissist weak. Now I expect the rumour like, she is arrogant which I like.

I made the narcissist look like a fool by making her to spread a rumour opposite to the previous one. Poor, rich and arrogant. Oh my God, it is entirely different from the 1st one. lol.

Life gives us the same problem again and again till we gain knowledge to overcome it. It took me all these years to understand it.

Thanks to my specimen, I have the data points and solutions. 

This is how a people pleaser became a narcissist slayer. 😇

All you need is a narcissist to become "rags to riches". lol.

Peacock University & the learning...

 Last year, when I joined Peacock University, I had a few expectations. And now, after a year, when I review my expectations, I can say it is fulfilled. 

I learned about myself, and more psychological concepts and especially about narcissist which made me a narcissist slayer. 😇

I thought students from the same city would complete the course. But it looks like a few did not attend the exams. As per my understanding, mid-aged students will complete or try to attend all the semester as attending classes will give them some relief from their routine, boring life. 

Students in their 20s and 30s will give importance to their job and will give the course less importance.

But my neighbour and her friend will attend all the semesters due to their family situation. After all, even narcissists need some time away from their family. I understand their pain, lol

Distance education in psychology attracts mostly narcissists as they want to learn how to get hold of the empaths. In the middle age, the people around narcissists gain experience to escape from them, and it will frustrate the narcissist. They will get confused, like, why does nobody admire me nowadays?

Am I supporting a narcissist?! lol