Goat and the carrot...

 The basic technique family members use on other family members to control them s is promising them a good thing in the future. They use it to blackmail, cross boundaries and to control another person..

Allowing others to cross a small boundary is like giving them permission to control your life, as small boundary crossing is a test to prove their dominance and to train you.

I was planning to cook lunch. Family from another city wanted my food. I don't like to make it a habit. So I refused. And as usual, one word led to another. And finally, the controlling words came: we will look after you in your old age. And I said, so far I am the one who is looking after everybody, so this promise is just stupid.  And I don't have any plan to live with you. I added, " Don't imagine getting whatever I have after I die, as chances are there for me to outlive everybody". Hahahaha, I felt good. 

I did not cook. 

Some parents won't know parenting. And these stupid parents spoil their kids and their future. They should be friend in boiling oil in hell.

I am venting my anger. Thats all. I know there is no separate hell. lol.

Story time about narcissist...

 I will write the disclaimer first. This is just imaginary about how things will turn out in future. It does not mean it will happen.

It is fascinating to observe a narcissistic mother and father. Both want control over the child, but in different ways. narcissistic mother won't allow anybody to get close to their child. In most cases they play an important role in making their divorce their life partner. narcissistic father never allows their children to outshine them and create a bad image about their child in the outer world.

Now we will come to our imaginary story.

The married lady I saw in the temple came daily before her daughter's marriage was finalised. When she told me about it, I thought, " Now your problem is going to get started." I have classified her as a narcissist. 

The first problem is money. Most of the parents sacrifice what they have to marry their daughter. Mothers give most of their gold jewels to their daughter. Will a narcissistic mother do that? No.. If they give a small portion of their jewels, that too will hurt them.

2nd problem: the mother will be in her 50s, and her health will be a challenge due to hormonal changes. And seeing their daughter glowing with health will hurt them. Mothers feel jealous towards their daughters too.

3rd problem: When there is a marriage in the family, the hero and heroine will be bride or groom. Will a narcissistic mother feel good to allow their daughter to outshine?

4th problem: Once the marriage is fixed, bride and groom will start to talk in phone for hours and it will also create jealousy in the narcissistic mother's mind.

I can not imagine how the mothers will handle this kind of situation.

If the daughter is very much attached to the narcissistic mother, then after marriage it will cause friction in married life.

These things can change the routine of life. Did I imagine too much?! lol

The outsider...

 My brain evolved a lot today. Sometimes, or rarely, our growth surprises us. It won't happen always. Today is that kind of day.

It is not like I don't trust others. But I read patterns. No one can be the same every day. Even my AI behaves differently daily. lol.

Last week, that old lady was very worried and wanted to find an old-age home. That time she was saying, if I go, my brother will get a bad name. This week, when I saw her, I told I don't think finding/going to old-age home is not a good idea, and I can not help. She replied, okay I was very upset that day. Today things are better at home. But my brother can fight with me any time. Do you think taking him to a psychologist will help? I said, I don't know.

Today again she said the same thing, Do you think taking him to a psychologist will help? I said, I don't know.(This is where I started to see things in different perspective). My brother listens to his wife, but he doesn't listen to me. He won't even reply to me. My brother's wife always wins and I am the one who loss always.

In all scenarios, the hate for her brother was constant and consistent.

My brain said she is an outsider to the family and wants to hurt the family. A dark empath. She is trying to get ideas from me.

Humans have intuition. Though old lady and her brother won't having proof that they both tried to spoil each other's life, they are feeling it in their heart. And expressing like this.

Any relationship can not be replaced. When a person gets married, their siblings will be their close family members, but not their family. Husband, wife and their kids are family. And keeping sister with them, is a very bad idea. Not advisable.

Can I add one more title to myself? A dark empath slayer! lol

Color game...

 To make my temple visit more interesting, I play a colour game with God. One of the color in my dress should match his dress color. I made a few rules. I have a few tricks to win too. lol. If I am conscious enough, I can always win.

When I was having tea, I got a follow-up. I said to myself, no need to follow up; I am preparing for my morning walk. I forgot my tricks because of this. And I remembered it when I opened the temple door. Okay, I am ready to lose. And I saw his dress. He used one of my tricks and had my dress colour. I giggled. Today, I also won the colour game.

Some people will decide marriage by the flower colour they get from God.

My colour game is for entertainment purposes only.

I went to the farmer's market. In the 1st shop I got 93 Rs, in the 2nd 90 Rs, and in the 3rd shop 93 rs. When I got that 93 Rs bill by brother looked at me. He was surprised. I said it's strange,  It has never happened. Then we got the bills randomly.

Marks are for yesterday's case study. Refer to the post here. 

I crossed one of my life's exit points today and got a boon with instructions too. I will write a book about it if I get more spiritual experiences. 

Now I have the answers to tell the Unicorn lady.

I will become more humble, playful and spiritual from today, but for outsiders I will be the same.

With more power, I am back to normal life.

Back to work.

A rare real life story - Part 3

 I met the /Unicorn lady yesterday in the temple. As usual, we greeted and smiled at each other. And I got to know more about her.

Born to a narcissistic father who had so many superstitious beliefs. A wealthy family started to crumble once the father lost his job. The next thing he did was to select a family sacrifice.

In villages during festivals, at a few temples, they sacrifice/kill a goat. Except for the goat, everybody knows the goat is going to get killed.

They brainwashed her, saying her birth star/horoscope is bad and she cannot get married. They have arranged a job for her, and they live off her salary. A narcissistic father always has a tendency to make sure of disabling the talents of their children. They don't want their kids to outshine them. The youngest son in the family was a pampered kid. Whenever he did something, the girl was asked to forgive him, as he was the youngest.

Time passed; both sons got married and had kids, and their mother died. She instructed the girl to live with the younger brother as long as possible, then to find an old-age home to stay.

The younger brother doesn't have a steady job, and most of the time he is at home and doesn't talk to her. If she talks also he will behave as if he can not hear her. If he talks, then it will be a fight.

Now, in old age, she wants to find an old-age home as per her mother's instructions to her. She thinks she has to join without informing as her family will try to find her to avoid a bad name.

She does not know that she is the trained slave of their family. 

She does not know that her family members should have assassinated her character behind her back when she was young. They can do the same thing now, and there won't be any bad name.

She believes she can change her brother to treat her with respect.

She feels bad that she worked and provided for the family, and now she is helpless.

For all the sacrifices I made in my life, what is the use? 

She asked me, " Can you tell me what to do?" I said, " Problems will be everywhere. I stayed in a hostel when I studied. One roommate will be good; another will be bad. Unless you know how to handle them, it will be tough(all my roommates are good; I just lied)

She said, "I am forgiving my brother as he is younger than me, but he remains the same". I said, How many age difference do you have, and why are you referring to him as a young boy? He won't change his attitude. He is trained from a young age by your parents to treat you like this, and they trained you to forgive him. So it can not be changed. And your brother is trained as a darling in the family, and he will remain like that only. You are suffering because of your parents' parenting. 

She said, "I am going to an old-age home without them knowing, otherwise they will come after me"

I said, "no, they won't". Then I said I could search the internet and give her the details she needed.

Since it is a case study given by the Universe to me, the verdict is that she has to continue to find truth in her next birth. Knowing it now doesn't add any value to it. She can think she has done her duty to the family. And it is time to take her back to you.

If the same thing happened to another female in her 40s or 50s, educate them to see the truth, make them rich. Make them build an old-age home where their parents can stay and their brothers' families can work. 

If the same thing happened to another female in her 20s, make the HR team in the company to contact her directly again and ask why she did not join? Educate women to have financial stability.

Imagine a soft rubber hammer, and when the judge(me) finishing the judgement, hitting it on the head of the parents and saying, "Justice served, Case closed". Imagine a quack sound when the hammer hits their head. lol.

Farewell and the coffin therapy...

 In life, we meet so many people and friends. School and college friends share fun-filled moments. It will fade away eventually. The memories of the friends who are with us during the tough phases of life will remain in our memories. And most of the time, a friend who did a good thing will do a bad thing to you, and their memories also fade away. As human being are with their dark side, if the good things they did exceed the bad things, then that memory and relationship will become cherishable. That kind of friend becomes family.

I was very comfortable with that set of friends for a few years. I was going through tough hormonal changes in my body, and just being with them balanced it. They don't know that. As time went on, there came a moment to say farewell.

I thought I was mature, and it is simple to say farewell. My body started to show stress symptoms. I didn't know it was the reason. Then it reached the stage where I needed to analyse it.

I did this therapy, and it worked. I imagined a coffin. I lay down in it and had to imagine I was going to die now and say my gratitude.

I said farewell and expressed gratitude one by one. The coffin inspiration is from this song

Once the farewell was over, I imagined coming out of the coffin. I slept with gratitude, and I connected with the collective consciousness. It talked to me and showed a scene. I think it has muted my voice, as I talked a lot in my previous visit. lol. Or I don't remember what I said.

My stress symptoms reduced the next day I did the same therapy with my family's budding narcissist. We both have outgrown our version of that time. I expressed gratitude and grieved. The bond was special once, but not any more. I buried both versions in my imagination and said farewell.

And my coffin therapy continues, but with a coffin color with my dress.

One should express grief to oneself, accept and move forward.

The freedom walk...

 Thursday, during my morning walk, I saw a big dog. A few streets have street dogs, and they won't allow any new dog in their area. They started to bark at the new dog. I was walking nearby, and to protect itself, the new dog walked close to me. I understood its situation, and I walked normally when it walked along with me.

And then it walked with me for another 15 minutes with so much loyalty. It reminded me of this advertisement. 

And it followed me to my home. I  did not allow it inside. I gave it a few biscuits and closed the door. It was sitting in front of the door for more than an hour. 

Though the gesture was kind and sweet, I don't like a dog following me everywhere I go. lol.

I got scared that the dog would follow me whenever I came out of my home. I was worried that day. I felt my freedom was taken away. lol.

Evening I went out and did not see that dog.

And I got my freedom back. lol.

I understood my limitations.