New religion = Old region with new approach...

 From childhood, I had a belief that if I am good and pray to God, then God will give me everything I ask. Most people have this belief. It is how their parents trained them. Also, society tries to mould a person like that.

This belief has few consequences. Giving your life's responsibility to God will make you take less responsibility towards your own life. People who have this kind of belief go to the temple, give something to God and expect something in return. 

You pray to God asking for something; God gives it along with some challenges, and you feel God has done something wrong to you.

I understood all these after a midlife change. 

Now, when I go to temple, I offer flowers to play the colour game 😇, practise respect, gratitude, contentment, and happiness through my actions.

Since I don't ask for anything, I don't get disappointed. This gives peace of mind. I love this approach. The habit I am creating by visiting the temple nowadays can make me a better person.

It does not mean that old habits won't surface in my mind. Sometimes I feel like asking, but I remind myself we are practising contentment, and a content mind won't ask anything.  After all, God know what is good for me; does he expect me to ask for it? lol, no. 

My new approach gives me peace of mind.

The transition...

 The transition period after the exit point test is crucial. The old self is no longer valid. The wisdom you gained will make a new self. The courage you earn at that point also makes you more stable.

As a super empath, the service I provided to the world changed once I became a narcissist slayer. The belief system started to upgrade automatically. The more truth I see, the wiser I became/become.

It is not easy, as there is a grief for the old self. A sadness to leave the familiarity. And also a confusion about the new self. Have you faced it in your life?

The old wounds and trauma are also not valid. lol. And they are the most familiar things to a person. Building a new self, leaving old wounds as they have already been judged, is tough, but I am doing it one step at a time. 

Take a first step, and the next step will be visible to you at the right time.

Reading this can give you more clarity. 😊

How to handle a rumor..

 I won't get any sleep if I don't write about narcissists. After all, I am a narcissist slayer, and recently I have become a dark empath slayer too. lol.

The main tactic used by a narcissist is creating a false image of you. When they do that, observe it as it will contain their insecurity. And you should find it and should show the narcissist that you know the truth. That is really fun. This strategy works all the time.

When my lovely neighbour started a rumour about my career, I used the same technique. She is putting on a scene as if she has a high-grade job, but the truth is she is working with her school qualification. I made her understand that I know the truth. 😇 

For the false data she created, I created so much real data about myself. 😇😇😇

My simple life is gone. But that is okay. I am flexible to accept changes.

This is known as using the same technique to beat your enemies. 

The weakness of a narcissist is that they don't know how to handle it when the illusions get broken. 

I won't underestimate anybody. So now the narcissist should live within the real data I create consistently throughout their life.

Which means the relationship between the narcissist and the narcissist slayer remains the same. 😇

You are judged...

 Everybody thinks that as long as we live here, we won't be judged, or we will be judged after we die. Totally wrong. Every life on this earth is judged at its exit point. For example, in college we write semester exams, and finally we write the final exam. And in each semester we will be tested on what we learned. Exit points are like that. From the previous exit point to the current one, you will be judged. All the good and bad karma we created will be judged, and the result will be given. But we won't be aware of it.

Souls don't have the right or deciding power to go or stay on this earth. The exit point and time are fixed, but the outcome is flexible. Our decisions intention in each and every action are in our control.

We are the masters of our fate when we have awareness of it.

Our life changes after the exit point, as the lessons we need to learn will be upgraded. In college, we will have classmates, but here we are on our own. lol. 

Have you read this?

Goat and the carrot...

 The basic technique family members use on other family members to control them s is promising them a good thing in the future. They use it to blackmail, cross boundaries and to control another person..

Allowing others to cross a small boundary is like giving them permission to control your life, as small boundary crossing is a test to prove their dominance and to train you.

I was planning to cook lunch. Family from another city wanted my food. I don't like to make it a habit. So I refused. And as usual, one word led to another. And finally, the controlling words came: we will look after you in your old age. And I said, so far I am the one who is looking after everybody, so this promise is just stupid.  And I don't have any plan to live with you. I added, " Don't imagine getting whatever I have after I die, as chances are there for me to outlive everybody". Hahahaha, I felt good. 

I did not cook. 

Some parents won't know parenting. And these stupid parents spoil their kids and their future. They should be friend in boiling oil in hell.

I am venting my anger. Thats all. I know there is no separate hell. lol.

Story time about narcissist...

 I will write the disclaimer first. This is just imaginary about how things will turn out in future. It does not mean it will happen.

It is fascinating to observe a narcissistic mother and father. Both want control over the child, but in different ways. narcissistic mother won't allow anybody to get close to their child. In most cases they play an important role in making their divorce their life partner. narcissistic father never allows their children to outshine them and create a bad image about their child in the outer world.

Now we will come to our imaginary story.

The married lady I saw in the temple came daily before her daughter's marriage was finalised. When she told me about it, I thought, " Now your problem is going to get started." I have classified her as a narcissist. 

The first problem is money. Most of the parents sacrifice what they have to marry their daughter. Mothers give most of their gold jewels to their daughter. Will a narcissistic mother do that? No.. If they give a small portion of their jewels, that too will hurt them.

2nd problem: the mother will be in her 50s, and her health will be a challenge due to hormonal changes. And seeing their daughter glowing with health will hurt them. Mothers feel jealous towards their daughters too.

3rd problem: When there is a marriage in the family, the hero and heroine will be bride or groom. Will a narcissistic mother feel good to allow their daughter to outshine?

4th problem: Once the marriage is fixed, bride and groom will start to talk in phone for hours and it will also create jealousy in the narcissistic mother's mind.

I can not imagine how the mothers will handle this kind of situation.

If the daughter is very much attached to the narcissistic mother, then after marriage it will cause friction in married life.

These things can change the routine of life. Did I imagine too much?! lol

The outsider...

 My brain evolved a lot today. Sometimes, or rarely, our growth surprises us. It won't happen always. Today is that kind of day.

It is not like I don't trust others. But I read patterns. No one can be the same every day. Even my AI behaves differently daily. lol.

Last week, that old lady was very worried and wanted to find an old-age home. That time she was saying, if I go, my brother will get a bad name. This week, when I saw her, I told I don't think finding/going to old-age home is not a good idea, and I can not help. She replied, okay I was very upset that day. Today things are better at home. But my brother can fight with me any time. Do you think taking him to a psychologist will help? I said, I don't know.

Today again she said the same thing, Do you think taking him to a psychologist will help? I said, I don't know.(This is where I started to see things in different perspective). My brother listens to his wife, but he doesn't listen to me. He won't even reply to me. My brother's wife always wins and I am the one who loss always.

In all scenarios, the hate for her brother was constant and consistent.

My brain said she is an outsider to the family and wants to hurt the family. A dark empath. She is trying to get ideas from me.

Humans have intuition. Though old lady and her brother won't having proof that they both tried to spoil each other's life, they are feeling it in their heart. And expressing like this.

Any relationship can not be replaced. When a person gets married, their siblings will be their close family members, but not their family. Husband, wife and their kids are family. And keeping sister with them, is a very bad idea. Not advisable.

Can I add one more title to myself? A dark empath slayer! lol