The freedom walk...

 Thursday, during my morning walk, I saw a big dog. A few streets have street dogs, and they won't allow any new dog in their area. They started to bark at the new dog. I was walking nearby, and to protect itself, the new dog walked close to me. I understood its situation, and I walked normally when it walked along with me.

And then it walked with me for another 15 minutes with so much loyalty. It reminded me of this advertisement. 

And it followed me to my home. I  did not allow it inside. I gave it a few biscuits and closed the door. It was sitting in front of the door for more than an hour. 

Though the gesture was kind and sweet, I don't like a dog following me everywhere I go. lol.

I got scared that the dog would follow me whenever I came out of my home. I was worried that day. I felt my freedom was taken away. lol.

Evening I went out and did not see that dog.

And I got my freedom back. lol.

I understood my limitations. 

You are my temple friend...

 Saying this to a person needs a few months and a consistent smile. 

The married lady whom I met at the temple usually talks a lot when there is an opportunity. The reason is simple. Sharing their problems with a stranger is easy, as they can not manipulate that information.

That day, she was saying to me that she was having so many things to handle in life. Her daughter's wedding is in April. She has to book wedding halls and book hotels for the relatives to stay. Her relatives are tough to handle. etc etc.... These are usual things to complain.

Then she said, "My sister-in-law said my dress should be less beautiful than the bride's dress. My sister-in-law is a good lady, but this comment hurt me".

And she added, " You don't have such problems."

At that time, I saw the old lady coming towards us. She was listening, and I sensed the old lady's anger and rage when she heard the sentence, "You don't have such problems"

Being a Unicorn, she has faced/facing so many problems in life.

I replied, Everybody has challenges in life. The old lady advised, "Don't say too many negative things when there is a wedding at your home. Do it happily".  Emotional control by the old lady was amazing. 

Next time, when I met the married lady, she said my husband and I fight a lot and seeing our life, my daughter doesn't want to get married. It took a lot of effort to make my daughter agree to this marriage.

I don't share my details, but I know a lot of details about the people with whom I interact. 

Yesterday, she asked my name, and we introduced ourselves, and she said You are my temple friend.

It is a strange thing. After knowing a lot of personal things about her, we introduced ourselves.

I accept her as an acquaintance. 

But a friend? Hmm, it is tough to become friends until it is proven.

ATM...

 Morning I went to the ATM to get money. People say that if you use cash for transactions, your expenses will be lower. I don't know whether that is correct.

I checked at my usual ATM. It said, "unable to dispense money," which means it is out of cash. The next person who entered the ATM asked me, " Is it working? I replied, no money in the machine. I went to the next ATM. One person was trying to get money from the ATM. Usually the process will be over in a few minutes. But he was trying for more time. Finally, he came out, and I asked him, " Is it working?". His face was confused, and he said, " Check it for yourself."  That reply was an unusual one. I was thinking, what a strange reaction! 

I tried to take money from the ATM. 1st time failed. The machine was asking questions in a different format. 2nd time, I entered the answers correctly and got money. Wow. I solved a different problem in the morning itself.

That person was not rude. He was unable to answer questions of the machine in a different style.

Sometimes in our life, instead of forming an opinion, we have to give time for it to unfold. Maybe our whole perception will change.

The reply the person gave was the correct one.

Lily...

 I don't get angry easily. If anybody repeats the same harmful action, then they will face the consequences nowadays. I got angry seeing my family's budding narcissist. If I did not tell them it is wrong, this kind of narcissism would grow.

And I said, if anybody disrespects me, you will be punished. I won't forget anything, and I will take revenge. Beware, my punishments will be cruel, and I won't feel bad about it.

I planted a few plants in my garden. These plants will remind me of the decision I announced today. Lily is one of them.

It is a relief... 

Marriage or business deal - part 2

 The couple got married, renewing their marriage vows in a Christian ceremony. And the people went mad. Did they change their religion? was the hot topic recently.

I think they are going to costar soon. 

It is not that they have changed their religion or gone mad.

It is publicity combined with personal benefit,

It is to give their fans a theja vu.

They expect they will come another round in the film industry with this publicity.

Jingxing...

 When people do important good things in their lives, they won't say it to all, as it will bring bad luck to them. Last week I saw the married lady in the temple. She was lighting the lamps. And she shared the good news about her daughter. Her daughter got engaged a few days ago, and she is happy, as the alliance was as per their expectations. Everybody gets certain opportunities at certain ages. In one's twenties, getting good alliances is normal. And I asked her, Why were you so worried about your daughter's marriage? And she replied, life partner is everything in life. Her life will be spoiled if she does not get a good life partner. And she added, God here is very powerful. I lit the lamp for 6 weeks, and marriage got fixed. I am sharing this to Lord Muruga's devotees only. Others will envy and will bring bad luck. You should know God is there and he can create miracles".

For me, it is a normal thing to get married at the right age. Everybody gets opportunities(Except Unicorn's as they are already sacrificed for their family).

God has limitations. He can not give everything to everybody. He can give opportunities when we learn certain lessons in life. Like an upgrade or a downgrade.

And I am not naive enough to believe a person's married life will be happy till the end just because the start is good. 

How couples face society's pressure, peers' expectations, family, and how they face their hormones changes as a couple decides it.

A marriage is successful when the couple get old together. 

When I meet my cousins I can see the changes. At the marriage, after 10 years of marriage and now - there is huge difference and I don't see anybody getting old together. And I know they envy me. lol

When anybody says about marriage, I think, these people are in 2nd stage talking about it to a person who is in 1st stage. Anyhow I wonder why I am not in the Jingxing group...

Note : Picture and the description is not related. 😊

A conversation without a mask...

 With some people, I sometimes have a conversation without wearing a mask. Most of the time, I don't say the raw truth. The raw truth hurts and is tough to understand.

My mom was curious about my neighbour behaving differently and asked me, do you know the reason why they are acting differently? Are they preparing for 2nd marriage? Maybe they have finalized the alliance?! 

I told her it is not that easy. Since her curiosity was increasing, I decided to tell her the truth. I listed the facts. I said the parents and the daughter are having toxic codependency. Parents need her as the daughter can help them go out, driving the car. They don't have to pay her the salary of a driver. The daughter needs her parents, as she uses their money to show off. Both of them can not survive without each other. And they won't allow anybody else in between them. If the daughter gets any alliance mother narcissist will spoil it. Mother narcissist will say the alliance is bad and the world is cruel.

My mom was not convinced. She said a mother won't behave like that.

And I explained that a narcissistic parent will treat their kid differently. When the kid is young, they treat the kid like an adult. When the kid grows up, they treat them like a kid. Now the mother is treating her daughter as a kid. She is encouraging the activities of a kid. That is why she allowed and encouraged her daughter to study at this age.

So there is no chance of her daughter getting married. But when a person learns a life lesson, the Universe grant people a miracle. If the daughter understands her mother's behaviour, then if a miracle happens, it is possible.

They behave as if they are rich, but they are not. When they look for an alliance, they expect that person to be a slave to them. They try to mould that person. In 20s and 30s, a male will have a few life experiences and chances are there to get attracted towards a narcissistic person. But at the mid age, a male will be having a lot of experiences and won't be ready to be a slave.

After my explanation, I thought this conversation was a raw truth, and my mom would be uncomfortable. And I said the disclaimer: all of these are applicable to a narcissistic mother only.

But still, I prefer to say that. lol

I got the courage to be disliked. 

In our culture, parents are supposed to do good for their sons and daughters. In reality, it is not. And nobody dares to talk about it.

And I don't need to say anything to a narcissistic mother. My eyes can say everything in few seconds if they dare to see it. lol