A rare real life story...

 I felt it was better to write it as early as possible instead of thinking about it. I don't know whether I can write fully in one post. 

The Unicorn

Injustice

The lie

The respect

I don't pray or expect anything from God when I go to the temple. I practise happy, content smile looking at the God's face. lol That is what I do daily in my morning walk.

Whenever I see the old lady, I smile and say a few words or wave at her. Last time, when I saw her, she said she could go out if her son took her out. I don't read her emotions. I just know she feels lonely. I understand people can be lonely even if they have family members at home.

Today when I go out for walking I met her. She was trying to decide whether to talk or not. And I said few unimportant words. lol. And she told me her life story. For the first time in my life, I listened without getting emotional(That is the power of being a narcissist slayer).

The Unicorn

She was born in a wealthy family. They had a big house, servants, a lot of properties. And the family's downfall started when her father resigned from his job. Only females from wealthy families got an education at that time. She got a good education and, to generate a steady income, she took a job. It is a rare thing for a female to work in late 1970s here.

She had an elder and a younger brother. She is the Unicorn. A rare female who did not think about her life.

The (unearned) respect

Only 2 were female in the company she worked. She worked in the same company for 30 years. People here are categorized based on their caste. Each caste will do a particular or specialized job. You can say they are specialist in that field. The caste I belong we are good administrators, business people and educators, including a chief minister. 

That company was owned by my caste people, and the manager was also from my caste. She was treated with respect and care. She asked my caste and I replied.

She at once make a gesture with hands 🙏 and said I am very grateful for the people I worked with and recollected her memories. The way she expressed it was like she is imagining/seeing her manager in me. This is the first time, I got a big respect for a thing which I did not do. lol. Getting respect from old people is not new when you have students as your fans. I don't know how I reacted or showed emotion in my face.

I did not do anything to get that respect.

Injustice

Though she earned money for her family, her whole life has become a sacrifice. Both her brothers got married. Her father gave his property to his elder son and he did not take care of his parents. Parents here still believe their sons are the protectors and girls are to be sacrificed.

In 1970, 1980s it is 100% a responsibilty of parents to look for a suitable groom for their daughter. 

I felt it was an injustice done to her by her family and siblings.

The lie

The old lady did not get married. She don't have a son. She don't like to say lie and may be felt it is better to tell the truth and said all these.

The remaining story will be published on the weekend.

My favourite house and the cute dogs.

 During my walk, I observe the architecture of the houses. Some houses are big, spacious, and have a garden. Can I give the title "The house" like how we submit essays in our school days?! lol.

A few houses make me curious too. Abandoned by the owners, though it looks strong and has signs of once thriving with a family in that area, they still have some life force in it.  Maybe the owners went abroad and did not think to come back.

It is rare to see a female name on the name board. That too in the old house. Before 20 years, it was really a big thing. The husband of the family has given equal rights(not exactly equal, as her name was below the male's name) to his wife, it seems. But that itself is a big thing. Not every female gets that recognition. I really admire the person who was bold enough to behave differently from society and put his wife's name on the name board. Many should have mocked him.

Opposite to that house is my favourite house(one of my favourites). They have a few pet dogs too. The colour paint combination of the house is good, and it has parking lots for the servants too. 

I don't know the breed of the dogs, but I like those dogs(one in particular). When I pass that house, I look at the dog, and the dog will act as if it doesn't look at me. Sometimes it gets confused about whether I am looking at the dog or at somebody behind it. lol.

I wanted to find out whether that dog observes me. I did not go near the house for a few days. After a few days I walked pass that house. And the dog was happy; it came running. lol 

Watching/observing is a time-pass activity for animals, especially for cats and dogs.

Mid life singer...

 Hormones change during midlife. The cell repair process will be messed up if you do not sleep well. Everybody says you will wake up at 3 and won't get sleep. Sugar fluctuations and cortisol spikes are the reasons. If you wake up due to a cortisol spike, your heartbeat will be fast, and most will think it is because of the problem they have in life. It is not.

When I go to the temple, the old lady's face will be the same every time I see her. But the lady who sings for half an hour in the temple, her face will be different every time. Sometimes it will be like a ghost has beaten her. And I have seen her changing footwear; this week it is new sandals. Most will think footwear is the reason for their leg pain. It may be a reason, but mostly it is because of the lack of nutrient absorption.

The above picture is not related to the article. lol... related to the title?!

Ladies who come to the temple, if they are in midlife, avoid climbing the steps as it will be painful for them. But the old lady climbs the steps, sits on the floor and gets up, though she has had 2 hip surgeries. I admire her for that. She said she gets pain in her bones if she doesn't walk or walks too much.

The singer lady, after the last interaction, tries to avoid me. lol. So I daily, I try to see her. Sometimes she looks tired, as if a ghost has slapped her. One should stop their performance at midlife. Otherwise, you will get ghost face. Performance takes too much energy for people pleasers and narcissists.

Life is interesting as I troll the people who troll me without much effort. lol

All the above symptoms can be cured if you do your own research.

Practice is a must...

 Hope you have read this

When I wrote that post, I  did not think that I would really get a follower. This week, I did not see her for a few days.  Then I saw her. This time she was wearing an ordinary slipper. Got tired of using sports shoes, I guess. lol

She was not punctual, and I wondered why. She herself said what she was doing. Next time she asked me, I saw you near that temple in your area. You did not come inside but continued walking. Why?" And I told her, I am not very religious to visit all the temples, and this temple doesn't slow down my pace in walking. She was looking for me in other temples. And she said something about her husband. She expected I feel jealous. I looked into her and thought, the people who get divorced will know about it after everybody knows. I also thought something is very wrong in her life as she is spending so much time in the temple. When a person is young, due to society's conditioning, they will think and visit the temple often. After midlife, most of them will understand that God can give opportunities. If we are ready, we will get the benefit. If we are not ready, we will learn a lesson and will get a delayed benefit. I don't know what my eyes reflected as I thought these things when I looked at her and saw the disappointment in her eyes. lol.

After all, in midlife, even our own body and mind have become like a strange thing, and who cares about other people's husbands?! It was like a 3-year-old kid showing another kid, see my toy, my toy is so pretty. lol.

I practice and improve my reactions by facing such people. If anybody tries to make you jealous, remember, they are feeling hollow and void and trying to fill it with others' emotions.

Lip liner sharpener

 I used pencils a long time ago, during my school days. And after so many years, I was trying new sharpeners for lip liner.

It is not easy to find the right cosmetics. You can find it by trial and error. At the same time, one cosmetics which is suitable for a person won't be suitable for another.

If the sharpener is not the right one, then the pencil will get wasted. Youtubers should put a video on finding a good sharpener for lip liners and crayons.

I have found an average sharpener and sharpened my lip liners. My make-up kit is ready.

Cosmetics companies make big money because of useless sharpeners, as the pencil will be over soon, and ladies will buy more. That is why there is no proper sharpener for lip liners and crayons.

I am ready to adopt you...

 The title is translated from the cat's meow. lol. Yesterday morning, when I woke up, a small kitten was sitting on my compound wall. It started to talk to me continuously. I translated it. It was saying I am ready to adopt you. Look, I am very cute. You have so many benefits.

My cat, which is grown now, is standing near me. I don't dare to cross my cat. I am not that brave. lol.

I said to the kitten, I already have a cat. Sorry, you can not adopt me.

Kitten was persistent. After a few minutes, it entered my house, and my cat showed its true colors. It became a warrior in a second and chased that kitten.

I already gave a warning to the kitten, but it needed a lesson.

A few days before, a small puppy also did the same thing. At that time, my cat was not there. I managed to chase that dog away. I was afraid that if my cat saw it, it would kill and eat it. 

My cat is a hunter. Bravest cat I ever had. Each cat I have had has a different personality.

Total freedom...

 I attended a baby shower today. Baby shower for Goddess in the morning. Usually, in temples, the blessed bangles are given to devotees in the evening. It is a belief that all your wishes will come true if you get it. Every year I get it from the temple in the evening. Did my dreams come true? Certainly not.

This year, I changed the tradition I follow. I bought so many bangles and gave the Goddess as an offering. And I was behaved as if I came for my friend's baby shower. Did not go to the temple in the evening to get the bangles.

True freedom is when you did not expect anything from the almighty God. And I got freedom today.

Self dependent with out expecting anything from anybody is freedom. What is freedom in your point of view?