Question became Exclamatory...

 What drives people to be the person they are? And especially a narcissist? Its nearly a year I learned narcissist behaviour. 

Oh boy, that is evolutionary. I became Sherlock Holmes. lol

An empath, a people pleaser, works hard for their family or friends' love. What about a narcissist? And I got a specimen to do the research.  😇 Courtesy: Neighbour

I always get this question when I see her. What is the control her mother has over her? Why she is living with them? What made her to work in the same job without trying to get a promotion?

And the universe was kind enough to give her plenty of opportunities(made me jealous).

These questions made me to collect data to find answers. She joined in the job without completing high school and staying in the same position, rejecting the opportunities to get promotion, has some deep psychological problems.

A narcissist always expects something from others. She is spending more than her income and getting her parents' help financially. Whenever she gets the opportunity to move away from her parents, she rejects it, as she can not survive on her income, as narcissists are grandiose.

And another thing, she can not make real friends. Though she takes a photo with a smiling face with others, nobody is her friend.

And she knows it. 

That is the reason why there is no way to evolve apart from her parents.

It is really funny to hear when she says that she is a social worker. She herself needs rescue. 😊

This knowledge, when used properly, can control a narcissist. That is why I am a narcissist slayer!!!

Part 2 - Crazy things we do in our midlife...

 For some people, everything happens at the right age, at the right time. They get a job at the right age, get married at the right age, buy a house, and have a very comfortable life.  They work towards it from their school days. And how do they feel in their midlife?

One of my cousins moved from native to a busy city and have/had a successful life. But when he visited native, I noticed a few things. He also feels that he is a failure. lol. midlife change(crisis).  And he hates city life. I think people relate their tough period in life to the city they live in and start to like/hate it.

In teen age and in his 20s, when he discusses any business plan, he will be more eager and energetic. Now those things are missing. I started to doubt whether he has a job or not. But I can not ask.

Our belief system changes during midlife. And our life experience teaches us new perspective. It does not mean the past is wrong. Without crossing that, pne can not reach mid life.

It is like attending school to prepare a person to go to higher studies.

When studying master's degree, one can not think UKG education was wrong. lol. Without that, this stage won't happen.

My new hobby is observing people in their midlife change. Very fascinating.

The song...

 Sometimes I get up early on Sunday mornings. After having tea, I like walking. The climate will be fresh, chill and warm. And the neem tree has started to give a nice aroma from the flowers. Most people will still be sleeping; only the churchgoers will be preparing to take their car out.

Near a turning, I heard a loud male voice. At the same time, I can hear a bike sound. Then I saw a village male in his late 30s, riding an ordinary bike, singing in a romantic voice loudly. It was really funny. People who are sleeping should have woken up hearing his voice.

His voice was not sweet, and he was not singing correctly, but he was happy and positive. That's the vibe I got. At that time, I realized, a person who can be happy with the current situation can only be happy in future. Instead of feeling bad for what we don't have, focusing on what we have makes a person happy.

Ordinary bike, ordinary clothes, but the person was happy.

Will a person who travels in a luxury car have this happiness?

Happiness is a habit. It is a practice.

Crazy things we do in our mid age...

 People call it a midlife crisis. But one can convert it into a midlife change.

Nowadays, I have started to watch how people react during their midlife change.

Everybody tries to visit the things that they liked as a kid or teenager during that time. And almost everybody thinks/feels they have wasted their life... lol. Universal feeling. I have not met a single person who thinks they have lived their life well.

Let us start with me. The crazy thing I did was joining in Peacock University. I was able to focus, enjoy the new learning. I realized my priorities have changed, my energy and time are limited, professors are ordinary human beings. My brain's neural network light up in class and it was good. But, no, my priorities are different. I said no to Peacock University.

The people who don't accept the fact that their priorities have changed continue in Peacock University(Like my neighbour)

My opposite house lady puts music on loudly for 2 hours daily(If you know how they put music in touring talkies era before the movie starts in the theatre). Midlife crisis came along with an ear problem!!! lol

And one of my cousins visited during my work time without pre-planning. Though my parents are impressed with his effort in self-driving for so many hours, I just know it. It's a midlife crisis. And he is revisiting his childhood wish. "The things we did for our family" looks stupid now, he said. lol(To say this, he travelled this much?!)

Everybody feels their life is a lie during their midlife. The real challenge is how you are going to make it right. Without spoiling the life and with a different perception.

I know how to make whatever I did is right in my life. And I am not going to teach it. This can be done by action, by living a full life. Not just by talking.