From rags to riches...

 This story is simple. All you need is rumors.  😊

I always wonder why people spread rumours? What will they get from it? And I found the answer recently. In Maths, using a Venn diagram, we solve problems. I used it to find the answer.

Intersection and difference in Venn diagram concepts helped in finding the solution.

Mainly, I used the process of elimination(difference). I observed the specimen for 1.6 years. lol(I refer narcissist like that).

It started casually. One of my neighbours asked for my help, and I helped. Then it started. The rumours about my career. I was confused. I did not understand. Why? After all, I helped. It is not wrong. I tried to fit in. I tried to please as a people pleaser. It did not work.

Then I started to observe my specimen. I did not talk much; I simply observed. And the neighbour asked for my help regularly. I did it. I love bombed and made my neighbour understand that I know what work she is doing. This process needed a lot of patience and waiting time.

Around this time, another rumour spread that I am wealthy. I was still confused.

I stopped all communication, and the process of elimination gave the result. Voila - found the answer. The only communication between the neighbour and me was her asking for my help regularly.

We are nearing the conclusion. lol. It is simple. 

When a narcissist needs something from a person, they create an illusion that the other person is weak and that they are the one who needs the narcissist. Narcissists try to tame the other person so that they can control them by spreading rumour, manipulations, guilt-tripping, gaslighting, etc.

Now I said I can not help further. This time, the reaction will be different. I have already made the narcissist weak. Now I expect the rumour like, she is arrogant which I like.

I made the narcissist look like a fool by making her to spread a rumour opposite to the previous one. Poor, rich and arrogant. Oh my God, it is entirely different from the 1st one. lol.

Life gives us the same problem again and again till we gain knowledge to overcome it. It took me all these years to understand it.

Thanks to my specimen, I have the data points and solutions. 

This is how a people pleaser became a narcissist slayer. 😇

All you need is a narcissist to become "rags to riches". lol.