A rare real life story - Part 3

 I met the /Unicorn lady yesterday in the temple. As usual, we greeted and smiled at each other. And I got to know more about her.

Born to a narcissistic father who had so many superstitious beliefs. A wealthy family started to crumble once the father lost his job. The next thing he did was to select a family sacrifice.

In villages during festivals, at a few temples, they sacrifice/kill a goat. Except for the goat, everybody knows the goat is going to get killed.

They brainwashed her, saying her birth star/horoscope is bad and she cannot get married. They have arranged a job for her, and they live off her salary. A narcissistic father always has a tendency to make sure of disabling the talents of their children. They don't want their kids to outshine them. The youngest son in the family was a pampered kid. Whenever he did something, the girl was asked to forgive him, as he was the youngest.

Time passed; both sons got married and had kids, and their mother died. She instructed the girl to live with the younger brother as long as possible, then to find an old-age home to stay.

The younger brother doesn't have a steady job, and most of the time he is at home and doesn't talk to her. If she talks also he will behave as if he can not hear her. If he talks, then it will be a fight.

Now, in old age, she wants to find an old-age home as per her mother's instructions to her. She thinks she has to join without informing as her family will try to find her to avoid a bad name.

She does not know that she is the trained slave of their family. 

She does not know that her family members should have assassinated her character behind her back when she was young. They can do the same thing now, and there won't be any bad name.

She believes she can change her brother to treat her with respect.

She feels bad that she worked and provided for the family, and now she is helpless.

For all the sacrifices I made in my life, what is the use? 

She asked me, " Can you tell me what to do?" I said, " Problems will be everywhere. I stayed in a hostel when I studied. One roommate will be good; another will be bad. Unless you know how to handle them, it will be tough(all my roommates are good; I just lied)

She said, "I am forgiving my brother as he is younger than me, but he remains the same". I said, How many age difference do you have, and why are you referring to him as a young boy? He won't change his attitude. He is trained from a young age by your parents to treat you like this, and they trained you to forgive him. So it can not be changed. And your brother is trained as a darling in the family, and he will remain like that only. You are suffering because of your parents' parenting. 

She said, "I am going to an old-age home without them knowing, otherwise they will come after me"

I said, "no, they won't". Then I said I could search the internet and give her the details she needed.

Since it is a case study given by the Universe to me, the verdict is that she has to continue to find truth in her next birth. Knowing it now doesn't add any value to it. She can think she has done her duty to the family. And it is time to take her back to you.

If the same thing happened to another female in her 40s or 50s, educate them to see the truth, make them rich. Make them build an old-age home where their parents can stay and their brothers' families can work. 

If the same thing happened to another female in her 20s, make the HR team in the company to contact her directly again and ask why she did not join? Educate women to have financial stability.

Imagine a soft rubber hammer, and when the judge(me) finishing the judgement, hitting it on the head of the parents and saying, "Justice served, Case closed". Imagine a quack sound when the hammer hits their head. lol.

Farewell and the coffin therapy...

 In life, we meet so many people and friends. School and college friends share fun-filled moments. It will fade away eventually. The memories of the friends who are with us during the tough phases of life will remain in our memories. And most of the time, a friend who did a good thing will do a bad thing to you, and their memories also fade away. As human being are with their dark side, if the good things they did exceed the bad things, then that memory and relationship will become cherishable. That kind of friend becomes family.

I was very comfortable with that set of friends for a few years. I was going through tough hormonal changes in my body, and just being with them balanced it. They don't know that. As time went on, there came a moment to say farewell.

I thought I was mature, and it is simple to say farewell. My body started to show stress symptoms. I didn't know it was the reason. Then it reached the stage where I needed to analyse it.

I did this therapy, and it worked. I imagined a coffin. I lay down in it and had to imagine I was going to die now and say my gratitude.

I said farewell and expressed gratitude one by one. The coffin inspiration is from this song

Once the farewell was over, I imagined coming out of the coffin. I slept with gratitude, and I connected with the collective consciousness. It talked to me and showed a scene. I think it has muted my voice, as I talked a lot in my previous visit. lol. Or I don't remember what I said.

My stress symptoms reduced the next day I did the same therapy with my family's budding narcissist. We both have outgrown our version of that time. I expressed gratitude and grieved. The bond was special once, but not any more. I buried both versions in my imagination and said farewell.

And my coffin therapy continues, but with a coffin color with my dress.

One should express grief to oneself, accept and move forward.